Family welcomes home surprise baby
She never thought she would be one of those girls on TV who didn’t know she was pregnant, but for Daisy Marquez, this scenario became a reality late last month.
The 22-year-old woman went to the University of New Mexico Hospital’s emergency room on Dec. 19 believing she had a bad case of the stomach flu when she learned she was 36 weeks pregnant and in labor.
Seven days earlier, Marquez began experiencing stomach cramps. Believing it was her menstrual cycle beginning, Marquez didn’t think anything of it.
That day, the pain had grown unbearable. An hour before her shift at McDonald’s in Belen, Marquez was laying on the couch trying to squeeze in some shut-eye after a restless night, but the pains would only allow her 15 minute naps.
“It would go away and come back, but on the 19th it was so bad that I couldn’t take it anymore,” Marquez said.
Thinking it was the stomach flu, Marquez asked her husband, David Salazar, to take her to the hospital.
“I told him before I left (the house) that they felt like contractions,” Marquez said.
After arriving at the hospital, a technician drew blood, a standard procedure, to see if the cause of the pains was pregnancy related. A nurse pulled Marquez to the side minutes later to inform her that the test came back positive.
“I was thinking I was a couple of weeks pregnant,” Marquez said.
With the strong stomach pains, Salazar thought it was a sign of a miscarriage.
“I thought the pains were a bad thing because she had not taken any prenatal vitamins and she was malnourished,” Salazar said. “That’s why we thought, ‘Oh my God. This is a bad thing.’”
An ultrasound revealed Marquez was 36 weeks along in her pregnancy and in labor.
“When they told us at the hospital, I was like, ‘She’s having a baby now?’” Salazar said. “They were like, ‘Yeah tonight,’ and I was like, ‘Are you sure?’”
Upon an examination, doctors learned Marquez’s water had broken and she was also six centimeters dilated. After strapping a heart monitor around Marquez’s belly, the baby began to kick for the first time, Marquez said.
When Salazar called family members to let them know his wife was in labor, they thought he was joking.
At 7:10 a.m., on Dec. 20, Marquez gave birth to a baby girl named Deanna Jane. She weighed seven pounds, six ounces and stretched 22 inches long.
“We thought she was going to come out a little banged up, but she came out good,” the new father said. “She’s a healthy baby. We’re blessed and lucky.”
During her surprise pregnancy, Marquez rode her bicycle more than two miles to work daily, went dirt bike riding and rode the rides at Cliff’s Amusement Park in Albuquerque.
“She was getting on all the rides — something we wouldn’t have done if we would’ve known she was pregnant,” Salazar said.
Marquez added, “I told David it’s a miracle she didn’t pop out or anything bad happened to her.”
The couple used to make fun of women on TV shows who claimed they didn’t know they were pregnant until they had the baby. Marquez would tell Salazar that these women were lying, because how could they not know that they were pregnant, she said.
“But I told David that I believe it now,” she said.
Throughout Marquez’s pregnancy, she had no pregnancy symptoms and never felt the baby move. She felt normal, she said.
With her oldest daughter, Dailene, Marquez knew she was pregnant when Salazar experienced morning sickness one day. From there, Marquez had a strong aversion to her husband and had cravings for corn dogs, which she doesn’t eat since she hates hot dogs.
“When we were pregnant with (Dailene), I couldn’t even stand his smell, and with this baby, it was normal,” Marquez said. “There was nothing — no symptoms, no morning sickness, no cravings, nothing.”
A skipped menstrual period was also normal for Marquez, since her cycles are irregular.
“I’m used to not getting my period, but I never thought, ‘Oh, OK. It’s a baby,’” Marquez said.
She said she had gained 12 pounds during the pregnancy and gone up two pant sizes, but thought it was what she was eating that made her gain the weight.
When family, friends and coworkers learned of Marquez’s unexpected bundle of joy, they gave her clothes, pampers and wipes.
“Some of it was boy’s stuff, but it’s fine. (Deanna) doesn’t care,” Salazar said.
With nothing on hand for their baby girl, the couple said that these items have helped greatly, but there is still much they need, such as formula, diapers and wipes. Purchasing formula is what they worry about the most, since they won’t receive state aid until next month, and purchasing one can at $20 a pop adds up on their limited income, he said.
With Marquez as the sole provider for the family, and living at their relative’s home in Belen, she returned back to work six days after giving birth.
Without a driver’s license or vehicle, Marquez’s coworkers have driven her to and from work.
“I need to work,” the new mother of two said. “We need the money. I can’t just be here at the house and not getting money for us, because it’s hard.”
The couple moved to Belen in August seeking employment opportunities. In their hometown of Raymondville, Texas, Marquez and Salazar spent five months unemployed and searching for jobs before making the move to New Mexico.
“We would apply and nothing. We would call and nothing. We were living on unemployment,” Marquez said.
“There was no jobs over there, so we came over here to look for jobs and as soon as we got here, I got hired at McDonald’s.”
Overnight, Salazar turned from job hunting to being a stay-at-home dad, taking care of a newborn baby and his 2-year-old daughter.
“It’s been rough making the adjustment, because this one (Dailene) runs at two speeds — run and stop,” he said.
Marquez hopes to save up enough money to get a New Mexico driver’s license, vehicle and eventually their own home.
But with an unexpected newborn on their hands, the couple is back to square one on acquiring those things. They had just finished paying off a car loan and debt they used to move.
“There was a little light at the end of the tunnel and then, boom a baby, so we had to borrow more money,” Salazar said.
Although Deanna’s been with the family for a little more than two weeks, they have fallen in love with her. From her smell to her smile and her giggle, the couple “oohs” and “aahs” over every move she makes.
“I still kind of don’t even believe it sometimes. I tell David it feels like it’s not real, because she just came and we didn’t even have time for it to sink in,” Marquez said.
Donations for the couple can be dropped off at the Belen McDonald’s, 503 N. Main St., or contact the fast food restaurant’s manager at 864-3121.
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